Our Lives Are Changing

As I listened to my husband snore, my eyes were wide open staring at the bright and beautiful moon beams shining through our bedroom window.  Racing thoughts of the previous evening’s activities and anticipating the exciting days and years ahead of us interrupted my sleep.  I gingerly arose out of bed.  “How can my husband sleep on a night like this?” I wondered.  Last evening was a milestone in our journey together and I knew in my heart that our lives would never be the same.

Tiptoeing by the table in the darkness, I glanced at the signature on the dotted line of the Team National Independent Marketer Agreements.  Teresa Stewart.  We decided to put the membership in my name.  I stepped to the window.  Staring out into the backyard, I recalled meeting Michelle at Red Lobster, meeting Bill and Bobby at our home, listening to testimonies, watching a dvd about saving money and making money, thinking about the possibilities, dreaming again, having fun, signing my name, shaking hands with our business partners, and knowing this company was an answer to my prayers!

This moment in history occurred three years ago when two amazing people shared this phenomenal company with us on August 29, 2009.  We are grateful to them for sharing with us.  I have to cheerfully say that there have been many restless and sleepless nights for me since then.  I am excited about what our Team National business is doing for us and about how it is changing our lives.

One way our Team National business has changed our lives is in providing different avenues for us to save money.  As a wife and mother, I find it important to save money.  In fact this membership helps me save thousands of dollars on everyday things my family needs.  This is huge for my family.  It is like putting money back into our bank account. 

Another way our Team National Business helps us is providing a second stream of income.  I mean, how can I not share a business that helps me to save thousands with everyone I know?  I am EXCITED to be sharing Team National and to be helping people change their lives everyday.

Being a first time business owner, I had much to learn.  There are no shortcuts on the road to success.  I counseled with my coach, Bill, each day.  He said to read personal development books and Success From Home magazines.  He said to listen to personal development and business training cd’s in my vehicle.  He said to attend the local, regional, and national events.  Everyday my life is enriched with inspiring authors and speakers.     

My coach told me to get outside of my comfort zone.  I began facing my fears.  I became more bold and confident.  I took charge of my schedule.  I became more grateful.  I rid my life of “people pleasing”.  My personal relationships strengthened and I am helping others strengthen their lives.  I am excited about life in the midst of facing challenges.  In the process I developed leadership skills.  These skills not only aid in business, but my personal life.  Who can put a price on this?

This company is about building relationships.  As a result of Team National I have met many great people.  These business partners are my best friends.  They are like family.  Again, who can put a price on this?

  

I am grateful my life has changed over the last three years.  It will continue to as I save money, earn money, grow personally, and build relationships.  I am growing everyday and want to become all that God created me to be. 

 

The Best Way

How is the best way to discipline our children?  Yelling and screaming?  Controlling?  Degrading? Or communicating effectively? Using positive encouragement?  It says in Ephesians 6:4, “And, ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

Through the years our youngest daughter Hannah has observed different parents raising their children.  Each has the own technique and philosophy.  Here are three different situations she tells about in a college English paper she wrote last spring semester (2013).

The Normal, The Strict, and The Weak

By Hannah Stewart

“Parents differ greatly when it comes to raising their children.  Free rein to walking a tightrope and anything in between are instances observed.  Disciplining a child properly means teaching and communicating with your child and encouraging your child; it does not mean yelling, spanking, or being strict.

“Joseph! Stop that!  Get over here!  Joseph, I said get over here now!” screamed Cathy at her eight year old son.  All of Cathy’s yelling did nothing but frustrate her and everyone around.  Parents that yell do not seem to follow through with their actions.  They yell at their child for a couple of minutes and threaten their child then give up and go back to whatever they were doing.  Or, when they follow through their child cries just to see if they can get their way and often times they do.  King Edward VIII once said, “The thing that impresses me the most about America is the way that parents obey their children.”  I definitely understand what he was talking about.  Another example, at my gym, we were having a parents’ night out, where, you could drop your children off and pay $10 each for pizza and games.  There was a little boy who repeatedly broke the rules and frustrated everyone.  When he was not listening, one of the moms asked him why he acted that way and he replied, “I just like being mean.”  Just like he was saying he liked candy.  I was a little shocked at his answer.

On the other hand, there are parents that are far too strict with their child.  For example, gymnastics, mother would not allow her daughter to stay up a little past her bedtime.  Our team was attending a meet and part of the experience was to observe upper, level gymnasts perform their routines.  Lilly could have benefited from this, but since it would have been forty-five minutes past the normal bedtime, Lilly had to miss the excitement and learning experience.  I have noticed that Lilly is very quiet around her Mother; however, Lilly was very loud and outspoken with her teammates when her mother was not around.  Perhaps, Lilly felt that she could be who she was created to be when Mother was not present.

There are parents who discipline without either technique.  Instead of yelling and degrading their child, they encourage their children to be who they are.  When the child does need instruction, it is done calmly, firmly, and gently that way the child is not embarrassed in front of their peers.  Consequences are a big part of a child’s discipline.  “Do you want to go to the birthday party tomorrow because the way you are acting right now, you will be staying at home says a mother?  You give a child a decision; to stop the bad behavior and to the birthday party or keep the bad behavior up and stay home.

Communication, encouragement, and consequences are the way to go when disciplining a child.  Parents should show love and respect when teaching their children.”

No one ever said raising children is easy, but with the Lord’s help much can be accomplished.  It says in Proverbs 22: 6 to “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Get Outside Of You Box To Do Something New Everyday

Get outside of your box to do something new everyday!  My teachers have encouraged me many times throughout my life to learn by doing something new and uncomfortable.  Lately, I have come to more fully understand the meaning and benefits.  What does it mean to get outside of your box?  Why is it important to get outside of your box?  Who should get outside of their box? 

Getting outside of your box just means doing something new or something you are afraid doing.  In school students are encouraged to do this everyday.  One example was that when I was younger I played the piano in front of people I do not know at a recital. 

“Next we have Teresa.  She will be playing a song by Johan Sebastian Bach,” announced the teacher at the piano recital.  Just hearing my name caused my palms to sweat.  I stood up and walked to the piano on shaky legs.  As I sat down on the piano bench and then I placed my hands on the keyboard to begin my song, my stomach was filled with butterflies and my hands began to shake.  I loved playing the piano at home alone, but no in front of a large group of people.  I began playing my song anyway.  When I finished my song, I felt a surge on confidence rush through me.  I did it!

As a homeschool mom, I encouraged my kids many times over to get outside of their box.  By the time Hannah was ready to take her first college class she still felt uncomfortable.  Here is how she described her feeling in an English class.

  

First Day of Ozark Technical College Class

By Hannah Stewart

“Nervous was my middle name first day of class.  It was my first college class and these thoughts entered my head:  What if I fail the class?  What if I cannot find the room?  Finding the room did not take long at all, so then I was twenty minutes early.  I walked into the class room, plopped into a chair and did not talk to anyone.  During class, I was so nervous I could hardly take notes.  By the second or third class, I was not as nervous and felt more comfortable.  But that first day of class was so nerve racking for me.”

Why is it important to get outside your box?  I understand that it would have been easier not to participate in a piano recital.  I would have been more comfortable just playing the piano at home all by myself instead of the presence of people.  Hannah would have been more comfortable in just staying at home.  She would not run the risk of failing her class.  She would not run the risk of meeting people.  Notice something here.  Both of us learned something new and gained confidence in ourselves.  Being lifelong learners is important in this life.  We must keep our minds growing and active.

Who should get outside of the box?  Students, teachers, business owners, everybody should keep it in their everyday scheme of life.  Going to work and coming home to zone out in front of the television is boring.  You will not grow this way.

For me it is important to get outside my comfort zone everyday especially in my business.  I have discovered that I can accomplish more than I ever thought I could in this life.  My confidence has sky rocketed.  I love the feeling I get when I catch myself doing something that used to make me feel insecure and now I am performing the task without even thinking about it.  I think, “Wow!  Is that me?!”  This growth helps me to be the best business partner I can be.

Lastly and most important is that I want to become all that God created me to become.  Can I do this without getting outside of my comfort zone?  Probably not.  There is one thing I know and that is God is with me helping me do that he wants of me. It says in Isaiah 41:10 “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”      

Take The High Road

Caring for five cats and a dog is a lot like raising children.  Our three children often would be in a fight.  I would always require them to apologize, hug each other, and say I love you.  We are a family and we care for each other.

 

One hot and dry July morning (2012) our youngest daughter, Hannah, and her Dad were feeding our five hungry cats and our dog, Nanook.  Hannah carried the 20 pound bag of Science Diet Cat out to the back porch.  She slowly lowered the bag onto the porch.  She allowed the bag to drop the last foot.  Plop!

“Mew, mew, mew!” our cats cried as they circled Hannah legs.  She had taken the huge bag outside to pour the cat food into smaller and easier to carry containers.  She set two bowls of cat food on top of the barbeque for Captain and Rose.  They both jump on top of the barbeque.  Missy’s bowl was set on the picnic table.  Missy jumped and began daintily eating.  Bonnie eats on the front porch so Hannah took Bonnie a bowl to the front porch.

While she took care of Bonnie, Sam grew impatient and decided to take matters into his own hands.  He stuck his head into the huge bag of cat food.  Sam stood on his hind legs on the porch and front feet and upper torso inside the bag.  He was having a hay day eating.  He was in cat food heaven.

While Hannah cared for the cats, her Dad was watering the lawn.  Suddenly, Nanook yipped as if to say, “Look what Sam is doing!  He should not be doing this!”  Nanook paced back and forth.  “Yip!” again Nanook barked.  By this time Hannah was back on the porch to carry the cat food back into the garage in a safe place.  Her Dad turned around to see what Nanook was fussing about.

Hannah and her Dad looked at each other and burst out laughing.  Nanook was tattling on Sam.  It was so funny since those two have never really cooperated together.  Sam was always stealing Nanook’s dog food or slapping Nanook.  On numerous occasions we have heard Nanook growling at Sam.  “Yip, yip, yip!” Nanook barked and ran in a circle around Sam.  “Settle down!” ordered Dad. 

Hannah prepared Sam a bowl and took him to a corner on the porch to eat.  Nanook was given his bowl of dog food.  Everybody was happy, at least for awhile.

Nanook and Sam reminded me of similar relationships I have seen in some people.  These relationships show symptoms such as disrespectfulness, back biting, flaring tempers, rudeness, and taking offense easily.  It takes a strong person to take the high road, to show kindness in the midst of rudeness. 

Yet that is what the Bible says to do.  In Matthew 5:44 it reads, “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.  For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye?”

Thoughts Are Powerful

“You are not what you think you are.  What you think, you are.”  This is a powerful and true statement written by an unknown author.  Just ponder this.  The thoughts individuals have about themselves and the world significantly impacts who they are and what they will become in this life.

Recently, my youngest daughter enrolled in a college level English class where she was given an interesting writing assignment.  In this assignment Hannah describes her mind using comparisons.   

   

My Mind

By Hannah Stewart, age 17

“Wind blowing through the grass, birds chirping, and the sound of the river flowing by is the sounds that can be heard in a meadow.  My mind is like a meadow; it is open, big, and always has something it.

The meadow has many animals, such as birds and ants.  The Cardinals symbolize my love for gymnastics.  Like these birds I, also fly and flip high from the ground to a degree.  Like a bird must concentrate to stay in the air, I must concentrate to stay in the air and to land properly.  The ants on the ant hill stands for my ambition.  Each little ant brings something new each day to the ant hill.  Like the ants helping the colony, I like to help my friends and family.  For example, I am excited about my babysitting job.  This allows me to help mothers attend Bible study each week.  I am, also, excited to be able to help my mother organize the pantry space and more.

The meadow has beautiful wild flowers and trees on the edge.  The flowers represent my many friendships with bright shining faces.  The different colors and shapes of the flowers show the different friendships I am blessed with.  The friends I have are very encouraging, fun, positive, and caring.  On the edge of my meadow there is a big tree which represents my family.  Strong for whatever life throws at us, shade for comfort, and leaves displaying the beauty of my family relationships.  The roots represent how we are stable and always there.

My future could be compared to a bright and shining river running through the meadow.  It is always moving and taking me to places I’ve never been.  I never stay in the same place in my learning.  My meadow with all the animals, plants, and a river is big, beautiful, and always growing.  This is the way I like to think my mind is.”

I love Hannah’s descriptions of her mind. It is a reflection of who she is and what she will be in the future.  She is a person who is happy, learning, helping people, and building relationships.  She has a great life in front of her. 

It seems to me that what you expect to happen in situations or experiences will significantly influence the outcome.  For example, if I meet and greet people with a smile and enthusiastic attitude, then people will generally return the smile and have a more positive attitude.  The opposite could happen.  If I meet and greet people with a sour look and frown on my face and a grumpy attitude, what happens?  Generally, people frown and gripe.  Over time our words, thoughts, and actions become habits.  Our habits form our character.  What kind of character do you want to possess:  optimistic or pessimistic?  Or even more your character will determine you future!  Why not have optimistic thoughts about your life? 

I like what Frank Outlaw tells us about our thoughts.  “Watch your thoughts; they become words.  Watch your words; they become actions.  Watch your actions; they become habits.  Watch your habits; they become character.  Watch your character; for it becomes your destiny!”

Nanook and Star

Through the years I have encountered many different kinds of dogs with different personalities.  Some dogs are barking and short tempered not wanting to play much.  Other dogs are quiet and lazy.  Our dog, Nanook, is usually running around excited about the adventures of the day.

When Nanook first joined our family, we kept him tied up for a short time.  This was mainly due to this fact: we did not know how our cats, which have never been around a dog, would react.  The second reason is that we were told Nanook might chase the cats.  Stephanie, Chris, and Hannah each took a cat to introduce them.  Each of the cats greeted Nanook with hissing apprehension, but over time the apprehension turned to toleration and later to friendship.  It was fun to observe the friendship develop over time.

It was soon thereafter that we allowed Nanook to roam freely in our fenced in backyard.  Each cat and dog had their own bowl with food to eat for breakfast and dinner and a huge container filled with water that they all drank out of.  This worked great.   

One day after breakfast Star headed toward the side gate to groom himself in the sun.   He did not want to be bothered by Nanook who always liked smelling or licking the heads of each cat.  When Nanook saw Star leaving, he ran toward the side gate and sat in front of it.  Star stopped for a minute.  It was if you could read his mind.  “Well, okay, I will just escape through the two door gate.”  As Star traveled a new direction, Nanook ran and sat in front of the two door gate.  Star stopped again!  Nanook was hunched on the ground wagging his tail wanting to play.  This was just a game and another adventure.  Star then traveled to another gate and Nanook traveled to the gate blocking the way.  I could tell poor Star was becoming frustrated.  As funny as the situation was, I decided to stop Nanook.  “Now Nanook, you need to be nice to Star!”  And that is when Star escaped through the gate.

It is amazing the way God created animals.  Our cats and dog have their own unique personalities and gifts.  For instance our dog is excited, happy, ornery, and looking for adventure.  Our cats are playful, affectionate, and demanding at times.  All of our cats and dog are a blessing and gift from God.

Nanook, The Great White American Eskimo Dog

Being cat lovers Steve and I never considered owning a dog until our son, Christopher, asked over and over again to adopt a dog.  After researching the matter, we chose to begin the process in acquiring a dog for Chris.  Caring for a dog would provide an opportunity for our children to learn responsibility.

A colleague of Steve’s was searching for a home for his son’s dog.  This son was serving in the U.S. Coast Guard.  We were happy to provide a home for this dog.  The dog was a handsome medium size longhaired white American Eskimo breed.  When Bob and Betty brought the yelping and hyperactive dog, Nanook, to us, it was a huge surprise to our three kids. 

After Bob and Betty said their goodbyes, we were left alone with our new dog.  Cautiously, Chris asked, “Is the dog ours?”  “Yes, he is!” we answered smiling at our three kids.  “You will have to take good care of him!”  Steve informed them.  “We will.” they chimed together.  “Dogs are similar to us in many ways in that they need shelter, food, and love. 

One of the first things we did was to introduce Nanook to the fenced in back yard.  We led him to his dog house.  This is a place for him to stay dry in the rain and a place to stay warm on cold evenings.  We showed our kids the correct measured amount of food morning and evening for our new friend.  They made sure he had plenty of water each day. 

“It is not enough to feed and water Nanook we must become his friend.” I told them.  Each day the kids patted Nanook on the head and talked to him. “How’s my dog?” Chris would say while standing on the back porch. On many occasions I looked out the window to see Hannah sitting in the dog house with Nanook.  She loved to sit with him inside the dog house.  “Such a good puppy!” she would encourage him.  Nanook loved all the attention.  Nanook always wore a smile on his face and he was always running and walking everywhere with us. 

   

The kids soon discovered Nanook already knew how to sit down and beg.  Chris proceeded to teach him to climb the steps to the tree house and run down the slide and to run up the slide and walk down the steps.  He was taught to jump up on a tree stump, to sit on it, and to stay.  Staying was the difficult part for him, especially when we walked away from him.  He wanted to go with us so much, but most of the time he obeyed.  Nanook was always anxious to please us.  It was exciting to discover that our dog was smart and not stupid like some dogs. 

 A few days later we took Nanook for a wellness check up.  This was an opportunity for the kids to speak with the veterinarian about Nanook.  The doctor explained about the importance of rabies vaccinations, heart worm, flea and tick prevention, and more.  Our children learned that Nanook is healthy and happy all because of what they do for Nanook.  “Wow, I did not realize just how much we do for Nanook to keep him healthy.  He is worth it all.” observed Chris.

Everyday I encouraged the kids to care for our dog.  I watched them take responsibility in feeding him and spending time with him.  Even on stormy nights when Nanook was so scared of the lightening they discreetly put him in the garage.  They talked to him saying everything would be alright.  I thought our three kids were only learning responsibility, but I observed a boost in their self-esteem.  Nanook’s enthusiastic ear, wagging tail, and licking their feet and hands are positive encouragement for them.

In Genesis 1:20-21 it says, “And God said, Let the waters bring forth abundantly the moving creature that hath life, and fowl that my fly above the earth in the open firmament of heaven.  And God created great whales, and every living creature that moveth, which the water brought forth abundantly, after their kind, and every winged fowl after his kind; and God saw that it was good.”  I am thankful to God for allowing Nanook to be a member of our family.  Not only does he provide opportunities to grow our children’s habits of responsibility and grow our children’s self-esteem, but he is just fun to be with.  He has provided much joy and blessing.